Resources
“We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are.”
- Max Depree
Parenting/Transition to Parenthood
Pregnancy/Postpartum
The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality by Kimberly Ann Johnson
Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts: A Healing Guide to the Secret Fears of New Mothers by Karen Kleiman and McIntyre
Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression by Brooke Shields
The Mindful Mom-to-Be: A Modern Doula's Guide to Building a Healthy Foundation from Pregnancy Through Birth by Lori Bregman
Parent Relationship
Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents by Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin
And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives by John and Julie Gottman
What About Us?: A New Parents Guide to Safeguarding Your Over-Anxious, Over-Extended, Sleep-Deprived Relationship by Karen Kleiman and Molly
Parenting
Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Dr. Becky Kennedy
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bronson
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind
by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne BronsonDon’t Carpe Diem by Glennon Doyle (blog post)
How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Julie Fable and Joanna King
Motherwhelmed: Challenging Norms, Untangling Truths, and Restoring Our Worth to the World by Beth Berry
Relationships
Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real
Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real
In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them by Stan Tatkin and Lin Chen
State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
You Are the One You've Been Waiting For: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships by Richard Schwartz
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattle
Ethically/Consensually Nonmonogamous Relationships
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, & Other Adventures by Janet Hardy and Dossie Eaton
A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Nonmonogamous by Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
Women and Female-Identifying
Self-Growth
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD
Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
Trauma
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD
It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
It Wasn't Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion by Beverly Engel, LMFT
Sexuality
Penis Owners
Ethical Porn for Dicks by David Ley
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz
Coping With Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz
Vulva Owners
Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters - and How to Get It by Dr. Laurie Mintz
The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker
Kink/BDSM
When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt
With Sprinkles on Top: Everything Vanilla People and Their Kinky Partners Need to Know to Communicate, Explore, and Connect by Stefani Goerlich
Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities by David Ortmann and Richard Sprott
Desire, Pleasure, and Eroticism
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch, PhD
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships by Lauren Fogel Mersy, PsyD and Jennifer A. Vencill, PhD, ABPP
Come Together: The Science (And Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski, PhD
Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life by Justin Lehmiller
She Comes First by Ian Kerner